Parents – Who’s Looking Out For You?

I couldn’t stop thinking about Marcy after my phone session with her. I was really worried about her. “Marcy, “ I had said in our session, “Your voice sounds drained of energy and your life force feels really low. What’s going on?” “I just have no time for myself at all. It seems like between work and driving my kids to all their activities, there’s nothing left. I’m feeling really discouraged – like I’m never going to get to do anything with my life for me. It all seems to be for everyone else. Sometimes I feel like I’m dying – and sometimes I even want to die.” This was not good. Something had to change – and soon. As …

Parents – Experience A Child’s Playful Heart

Playtime between a parent and a child creates a deep emotional bond. It’s the bond that sets the path for joyful, creative, cooperative times by being together. Adults seem to shun fun and games in their daily lives. As adults, we often get so caught up in “grown up” business that we can forget how to have pure fun. Some parents just don’t know how to play with their children or feel they don’t have the time. It’s no wonder – most parents work a full-time job and feel drained with little or no energy at the end of the day to feel playful. If only parents knew how much playtime shapes their family life, more parents would welcome it. …

Parenting the Attachment Challenged Child

There is much literature on how to parent challenging children these days. Unfortunately much of that literature does not typically address the child with special parenting needs and a special parenting understanding. A child that has been diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder, oppositional defiant disorder,or even depression, requires an understanding not of the behavior itself,but rather of the underlying dynamics driving the behavior. Take for example the analogy of an iceberg. Typically when we refer to an iceberg we are referring to what we see above the surface. However, 90% of every iceberg is invisible, lying under the surface. What you consider to be an iceberg is really only the tip. It’s an overwhelming thought when considering how enormous an …

Parents Dealing with Worry and Fear

This column offers solutions to people who write in questions about how they can solve their life challenges through the formula described in the books, Way of the Positive Flow and Positive Flow Parenting, by Lawrence Vijay Girard Please send your questions to Submissions@FruitgardenPublishing.Com Parents Dealing with Worry and Fear by Lawrence Vijay Girard Dear Vijay, I worry about not being a good parent. My daughter Tracy is six and my son Michael is four. They seem happy. Our family does things together. It is just that with so much that seems to be going wrong in the world, I fear that something will go wrong at home. Hope you can help me, M.J. Dear M.J., This really isn’t a …

Making the Holidays More Meaningful

Have the holidays become too commercial for you? Are you feeling empty and unfulfilled during this time of the year? This year by making some simple changes you and your children can truly make the holidays more meaningful. Teach gratitude during the holidays: Gratitude should not only be for the material presents but for the little blessings in their lives. Begin to have your children tell you each day three things that they are grateful for. This helps children understand the true meaning of the holidays in several ways. First, the children begin to notice the little gifts that they sometimes take for granted, a butterfly, a sunny day, getting to sleep late. Secondly, once they notice these little gifts …

Make Your Baby Shower Ideas Special – 6 Golden Tips for Planning A Baby Shower (Part One)

Easy, easy. Everything on this planet can be done in a very simple way – So are your baby showers. You don’t have to be Martha Stewart to host a Shower. However, if you’re pulling your hair out as how to turn your baby shower into a really special and exciting celebration for the soon-to-be-parents, follow my 3 golden tips below. You will soon find out that planning a baby shower is just a snap and full of fun. Golden Tip 1: Let Your Imagination Flow Do you have the desire for something a little more elaborate and unique? If the answer is yes, you may need a few baby shower ideas’ triggers. I can’t imagine a baby shower without …

Love, Food, and Kids

Forty years ago I became very interested in health and nutrition. I had been a sickly child and I had hated being sick. As a low-energy young adult, I had decided to do something about my health, so after reading some wonderful books on nutrition, I proceeded to completely change what I ate. I started to shop at the only little health food store in Los Angeles – Whole Foods was years away! I threw out all packaged food and ate only natural, fresh organic products – when I could get them. I made a decision that if people didn’t eat something 100 years ago, I wasn’t going to eat it now. I was extremely pleased with the improvement in …

Keeping kids active: Ideas for parents

Children are more sedentary than ever, watching television and playing video games instead of biking to the playground or playing kickball in the backyard with their pals is a major cause. And even schools have stopped emphasizing fitness, in some school districts, physical education has vanished completely because of under-funding. Kids need regular exercise to build strong bones and muscles. Exercise also helps children sleep well at night and stay alert during the day. Such habits established in childhood help adolescents maintain healthy weight despite the hormonal changes, rapid growth and social influences that often lead to overeating. And active children are more likely to become fit adults. As childhood has become more sedentary, children have put on weight — …

Is There Sex After Motherhood?

If you’re like many new moms, your sex life may have undergone some changes since the birth of your baby, especially if this is your first child. Sleepless nights, the added responsibilities, as well as hormonal adjustments can all contribute to a lack of sexual desire on the part of a new mom. Many women also struggle with the apparent conflict between motherhood and sex. You may find it difficult to see yourself as a sexual being when you spend your days nursing the baby, changing dirty diapers, and planning how you’re going to make it out of your housecoat before supper time! It’s wise to remember though, that while you may be preoccupied with baby care, your partner may …

Latex Allergy and Positive Living

Learning to Live Positively with a Latex Allergy Your child has a latex allergy: Perhaps a mild allergy; perhaps a life-threatening one. Either way, you now have to help your child live with it. Of course, to do so, you need to be able to live with it. You’ve done all the research. You know to avoid balloons and bananas. You’ve latex-proofed your house. Have you grieved? While it might seem selfish, knowing that your child can never go near latex, is the death of a dream for you-the dream of your child living a safe, problem-free life. You have the right to grieve for his or her loss. Grieve over the fact that your child can never blithely go …

Helpful Tips to Get Your ADD/ADHD (Indigo) Child To Sleep Naturally

As a single mom of four children myself I know how difficult it is to get any child to bed on time! It is even more difficult if a child has been diagnosed as Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder or more commonly referred to as ADD/ADHD. The Angel Lady, Doreen Virtue, calls this: Attention Dialed into a Higher Dimension. Brilliant! My eldest son, since the day he arrived into this world has been a go-go-goer! The first year of his life, I tripled my own age! I was sleep deprived and literally exhausted, a walking zombie! He barely slept and the times he did sleep, he was very restless, constantly moving and frequently waking up. Routines and schedules did not work for …

Is It Okay to Spoil Your Kids?

None of us want “spoiled” kids – kids who are bratty, self-centered, demanding, inconsiderate. So, what spoils children and what doesn’t? When I was raising my children, I was often told that I would spoil them if I didn’t let them cry – if I held them a lot. Fortunately, I didn’t believe this nonsense. You can’t spoil a child with love. Children need love as much as they need food and water. The problem is in defining “love.” We are not giving love to our children when we give them everything they want on the material level. Parents often think they are loving their children when they pile them up with all the toys or activities they desire, but …

Here’s Help for the “I Can’t Say ‘No’ Blues”

I hear it all the time. Cries from Christian women who want desperately to serve the Lord, but who feel overwhelmed. “I almost dread going to PTO meetings or church services anymore because I just know somebody else is going to ask me to help with something,” they say. “Don’t get me wrong. I want to help, but there are only so many hours in my day. I feel like I’m just going to explode if I don’t get some relief.” What usually follow these statements are apologies. “I’m sorry. I don’t mean to complain. I’ve been blessed with so much that I have no choice but to give back. And I really am glad to do it. Anyway, as …

Giving The Unborn Child What It Needs

The unborn child is fully dependent on its mother for everything. Therefore most of the food she eats will be used by the unborn child so it can grow and survive inside her. A great many things are essential for both the mother and her unborn baby. What Does Baby and Mother Need? Good nourishing food. The mother should eat well balanced meals. A well balanced meal should consist of: Proteins Carbohydrates Fat Proteins Are essential for bodybuilding. This does not mean making us fat, but rather building bulk and muscle. We need good strong muscles for practically everything. The heart is a muscle and that has to work really hard for the whole of our lives. When the heart …

Breastfeeding Is More Than Just Food

While the breastfeeding process exists to nourish a newborn and to provide everything that it needs to grow, breastfeeding is much more than food for a baby. The entire breastfeeding process provides significant benefits for both the baby and the mother. 1. Breast Milk Is A Living Substance Babies do not have a fully functioning immune system until they are one year old. For the first year of life, a breastfeeding mother actually provides the immune response for a baby who is exposed to a cold or flu. If a baby were to suffer a cold, his mother would immediately start to increase her white blood cell production to counteract the bacteria or virus whether or not she experiences the …

Back-to-School success: Support your Child with Feng Shui

Fall is almost here in the Northern Hemisphere, and back-to-school energy is everywhere. The malls are full of harried parents and children in tow, in search of the perfect new outfit for the school year. By using Feng Shui to give them a bedroom makeover you’ll have more impact on your child’s energy, learning and creativity than any new outfit could. Just as for adults, harmonious energy in a child’s bedroom encourages good study habits, promotes greater success in school and creates well-adjusted children. Top 10 Feng Shui tips for your child’s success and well-being Set an intention to co-create a simple and cozy room. Fill it full of symbols representing possibility and imagination. By giving children some control over …