Parents, Kids And Time Alone

“What are some of the ways in which you explain to kids that mom and dad need time alone, without feeling guilty about it?” A journalist, writing an article on having time alone and couple time when you have kids, asked me this question. Parents will feel guilty only when they believe that they are doing something wrong by spending time alone and couple time without their children. This is a false belief. The truth is that children grow up far healthier emotionally when their parents are happy and fulfilled, even if it means that their parents spend less time with them. When parents understand that they are being good parents by talking loving care of themselves and their relationship, …

Learning The Skills of Parenting

Parents unite! Complex as it is, it is possible to rear children into responsible, happy and well-adjusted adults. From our end as parents, it will take patience and commitment. However, it will also take wisdom and experience. This is where our support system and access to those who know will play a big role. No doubt parenting has its priceless rewards. No treasure could equal having our own flesh and blood continue the family line and seeing facets of ourselves in sons and daughters. We all look forward to seeing our grandchildren around us during visits and warm family gatherings. Grandchildren (well supported and taken cared of by their parents of course) are the rewards of old age. It is …

Kids Behaving Badly: A Misdiagnosed Epidemic?

What’s wrong with kids today? Although every generation seems to ask the same question, the debate on children’s manners has heated up significantly with articles, Op-Eds and even TV shows like “Nanny 911” that paint an alarming picture of manners and misbehavior unparalleled since…well, since the last generation grew up. To help desperate parents and frustrated onlookers, child development experts are pointing out clues-and perhaps cures-for the causes of what they say may be a publicly misdiagnosed epidemic. “Manners are important,” says C.T. O’Donnell II, President and CEO of KidsPeace, a 124-year-old national charity that works to bring peace to the lives of children and families in crisis. “They are vital to social order, building mutual respect, tolerance and cooperation, …

Kid Time And Couple Time

Summary: Are you having trouble finding time to be with your children and to be with each other? Discover how important this balance is, and what may be the underlying issue in the way of couple time. A reader emailed me the following question: “Many dads and moms, especially those that work full-time, are torn by guilt when it comes to time allocation. They have been away from the kids so long during the working week that the weekends MUST be spent with them. Result: There is simply NO couple-time. Any suggestions?” One thing that is often not realized by parents is that a happy and harmonious marriage is one of the greatest gifts they can give to their children. …

Are Your Children Growing Up Too Fast?

Each time our children graduate from one stage to another (i.e. crawling – walking, preschool – school, highschool – graduation) we as parents are excited and a little sad as well. We want our children to grow up, but we reminisce about the “good old” days. I think those mixed feelings are normal for all of us. My question for you is – “Are your children growing up too fast emotionally and socially?” We can’t stop their physical growth, but we can effect their emotional and social growth. Our society is compressing childhood more and more to where children are not children for very long. We only have 18 years in our entire life to be children. We struggle as …

Are You Meeting ALL Your Child’s Basic Needs?

This may come as a surprise, but many parents are unaware of the full extent of their child’s basic needs. Do you remember the old song by Lennon and McCartney about the girl leaving home after ‘living alone for so many years’? The parents were desolate. They’d given her everything money could buy – so how could she possibly have been lonely and unhappy? Clearly, there were some needs that just weren’t being met at home, so the girl upped and left. What are these basic needs we must be aware of if we’re to be effective parents? There are four categories: physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual. So often people overestimate the first category, physical needs – but let’s not …