Parents Supporting Adult Children?

How does that grab you? If you noticed this, maybe it’s because you are one of millions of older parents out there today, that are still supporting your adult child or children. Hey, they’ve been through college. They’ve gotten that position with a fairly good company. Maybe it’s not their final goal in that career they wanted, but it’s a start. And the expectations of the salary they thought would be guaranteed, well it’s not that great. Now, almost right away, the new car came into the picture. The cell phone and cable TV… well, they are real needs, maybe more than food. The rent at their apartment keeps going up. Many other expenses keep popping up. The student loan …

Mom’s Car Stereo

Do you remember the car stereo days of youth – windows down, hair wildly blowing and the radio blaring the latest and greatest musical hit? Depending on which friend was with me at the time, my in-dash could be playing dance, hip hop or even heavy metal. But no matter which music was selected, the purpose of volume was to drown out your own exuberant impressions of the coolest music sensations. With all the pleasure that my melodic actions used to bring me, I have to wonder what has happened to my car stereo. In my transition to motherhood my stereo has also taken on a new life. I find myself usually working with two options, the first of which …

Discipline Versus Punishment

Do you know the difference between discipline and punishment with their Latin roots? Punishment implies inflicting pain, while discipline means to teach. Parents who use punishment are missing important opportunities to teach their children better behaviors and help them self-discipline. Children can actually be taught responsible behaviors to help them get the things they want without breaking the rules. However, when parents are only interested in compliance, they often impose strict and severe consequences to stop or prevent the behavior. This generally leaves the child not thinking about how they were wrong and need to develop more appropriate behavior, but leaves them instead thinking about how unfair their parent is. Punishment generally teaches children to become better at not getting …

Digital Natives and Immigrants

Perhaps the least understood and least appreciated notion among those who design and deliver education today is the fact that our students have changed radically. A really big discontinuity has taken place – the arrival and rapid dissemination of digital technology in the last decades of the 20th century. Today’s learners represent the first generations to grow up with this new technology. The numbers are overwhelming: over 10,000 hours playing videogames, over 10,000 hours talking on digital cell phones; over 20,000 hours watching TV (a high percentage fast speed MTV), over 200,000 emails and instant messages sent and received; over 500,000 commercials seen—all before today’s kids leave college. And, maybe, at the very most, 5,000 hours of book reading. As …

How Much Do You Really Know About Teaching Your Child Safety?

There has been a huge amount of news recently involving child abductions, parental abductions, and child abuse. From Natalie Holloway in Aruba to Jessica Lundsford in Florida, parents have heard about children who have been kidnapped and murdered. Then there were the stories of parents who keep their children in cages or made them drink bleach to cleanse them of evil spirits. This is very scary stuff. The fact that we live in a world where people will hurt children, where even some parents have hurt their own children. We see profiled pictures of child sexual predators online, in the newspaper, and on television almost every week now it seems. What is a young parent, or any parent for that …

Communicating To Your Child Through Text

Today people are using their cell phones for much more than talking. In fact, the biggest craze that is sweeping the cell phone industry is text messages. Text messages are short messages that are sent either via cell phone or computer to a cell phone. Instead of answering the phone and talking, the person receiving the message can read it and type back a response. Teenagers and adult like text messages but teenagers especially seem to enjoy using text messaging to communicate with their friends. Many people find this a better way to communicate because it is not as disruptive as making a call and less time consuming. This is especially true when someone is at work or school and …

50 Things Every Single Dad Should Know

“Mama said there’d be days like this,” are strikingly honest lyrics that should be the introduction to the single dad’s national anthem. What mama didn’t say is that the days would sometimes go on, and on, and on, and on. It’s no secret that being a single parent is a tough job, and being a single mom is next to impossible, but being a single dad, now that is a death defying feat. Single dads are not suppose to exits, it’s a sort of oxymoron; like marital bliss. Fortunately, any dad who takes on the role of single parent “by choice” should receive an Oscar; okay at least a Golden Globe. The knowledge that comes naturally to women does not …