Parenting the Attachment Challenged Child

There is much literature on how to parent challenging children these days. Unfortunately much of that literature does not typically address the child with special parenting needs and a special parenting understanding. A child that has been diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder, oppositional defiant disorder,or even depression, requires an understanding not of the behavior itself,but rather of the underlying dynamics driving the behavior. Take for example the analogy of an iceberg. Typically when we refer to an iceberg we are referring to what we see above the surface. However, 90% of every iceberg is invisible, lying under the surface. What you consider to be an iceberg is really only the tip. It’s an overwhelming thought when considering how enormous an …

Helping New Parents and Infants Transition

Of all the research done on childcare and early childhood education you’d think someone would do studies on the fear that make couples looney in the head after they become parents. The biggest thing for a new parent is fear. Fear of what they would do if anything happened to their little Johnny or little Sue. This advice was given to them by their loving and caring family, friends, experts and professionals that never had a child. Truly all of that wonderful advice was meant to help the new parents, but it set off a stampede of stuff inside of them even they didn’t know they had. So for three months they are homebound with their new baby while entertaining …

How To Survive As A Working Parent

Basic Tips 1. Communicate with your babysitter, nannies or au pair, mother’s help to keep up-to–date. Make as much time as possible to talk to your child care provider. If you can keep the lines of communication open beyond the rush, you’ll have a much better feeling about your child’s development and well being. 2. Don’t get wound up by small issues. If your child only wants to eat burgers every day, let him eat them. He will outgrow this phase. Providing the child is not harming itself (getting over-weight etc.) or someone else by the behaviour just let it go. 3. Be flexible and open to new ideas and options If you have an early morning meeting and it …