Profile of Encouraged Children

Walk through any mall and you will see discouraged families. The parents look weary because the children are controlling them. How did this happen? With both parents working and returning home tired, sometimes it’s just easier to give in to the demands of the children. Eventually the pattern is set. An Audio child knows if he relentlessly demands his way, he will win. A Visual knows if she asks for your help with a project and frets over getting it done, you will do it for her rather than taking the time to help her do it herself. A Feeler child knows if she turns on the tears every time she has a little “ouch,” and you rush to her …

Primary Enuresis

Summer is over, and you again had no chance to have a vacation with your friends or at the sea, because of a very delicate reason. Your child still urinates in bed. What shall you do with wet bed-sheets in a train or at the hotel? When even staying at your relatives’ place seems to be so awkwardly… And for the first time, parents call in question other people’s advices to stop worrying and wait patiently till a baby outstrips this problem by himself. May be enuresis should be treated nevertheless? To wait or to treat? If your baby is more than 5 y.o., and he still awakes in a wet bed, you should start treatment, and not to wait. …

Pressure To Potty-How To Cope With Pressure From Family And Friends And Help Your Child Achieve Potty Training Success

Moms and Dads get bombarded with parenting advice from every direction. From play groups to magazines, from families to co-workers, parents constantly feel pressure for their little one to reach developmental milestones. Potty training is no exception, especially since approximately four million toddlers will share this milestone this year alone. Many family members or peers are often quick to prescribe the “correct way to train” or to dictate the “proper age” for a child to start training, but paying attention to your child’s cues is the best way to ensure success. To help make the potty training process easier, the PULL-UPS® Potty Training Partners (PTPs), a dedicated panel of child psychologists, pediatricians and parenting experts, offer their tried-and-true tips to …

Parents – Who’s Looking Out For You?

I couldn’t stop thinking about Marcy after my phone session with her. I was really worried about her. “Marcy, “ I had said in our session, “Your voice sounds drained of energy and your life force feels really low. What’s going on?” “I just have no time for myself at all. It seems like between work and driving my kids to all their activities, there’s nothing left. I’m feeling really discouraged – like I’m never going to get to do anything with my life for me. It all seems to be for everyone else. Sometimes I feel like I’m dying – and sometimes I even want to die.” This was not good. Something had to change – and soon. As …

Preparing Your Young Actor or Actress for Industry Success

Helping your young acting hopeful prepare for a successful acting career can be an incredibly rewarding experience for the parent. All parents like seeing their children being creative, expressing themselves, and, most importantly, having fun. It should be stated, however, that forcing a child to participate in any pursuit they don’t like is not just counterproductive but harmful to the child. Your role, as the acting hopeful’s parent, is to caringly nurture your children’s’ expressed interests and not force them into a pursuit in order to live vicariously through them. One would have to be born under a rock to have missed some of the more public examples of what can happen when children are forced into an acting career …

Parents – What Kind of Role Model Are You?

Are you being the person you want your children to be? Many parents today really try to be better parents than their parents were. They attempt to be there for their children – to listen to them, support them, spend time with them, as well as hold and nurture them. Their children grow up feeling loved and valued by these loving parents, yet often these same children struggle as adults in many areas of their lives. I have numerous clients who tell me that they had wonderful parents who truly loved and nurtured them, yet these clients are struggling with their work, their relationships, or their lives in general. Why is this? The common issue is that their parents did …

Preparing For The Birth Of A Baby – Essential Baby Clothes

If you are expecting a baby in the next few months, the chances are you will have started planning for some of her important things, if not doing them and buying them already. Her crib may be chosen; her nursery may be painted and decorated; you may have some beautiful bedding to match the baby decor of her room; and you may have bought a few gorgeous newborn outfits with which to adorn your newborn. However, there may be a whole host of things you have not really thought of seriously, especially if you are a first time parent. It is so tempting to focus on the pretty things, and forget, or not learn of, the practical ones. So, when …

Parents — The No Child Left Behind Law Won’t Do Much For Your Child

Past experience with federal education programs predicts that the No Child Left Behind act (NCLB) will also fail parents whose children are doing poorly in school. The federal government has spent over $120 billion on Title 1 programs for low-income students since 1965. Yet the literacy rates for these children today are appalling and the achievement gap between low-income children and their peers has not closed. If the U.S. Department of Education wants to give real choice to parents, they should not be tinkering with a failed government-controlled school system that, by its very nature, strangles free choice and competition. Americans have been blessed with a system that gives them almost unlimited choices in their daily lives for almost four …

Parents – Experience A Child’s Playful Heart

Playtime between a parent and a child creates a deep emotional bond. It’s the bond that sets the path for joyful, creative, cooperative times by being together. Adults seem to shun fun and games in their daily lives. As adults, we often get so caught up in “grown up” business that we can forget how to have pure fun. Some parents just don’t know how to play with their children or feel they don’t have the time. It’s no wonder – most parents work a full-time job and feel drained with little or no energy at the end of the day to feel playful. If only parents knew how much playtime shapes their family life, more parents would welcome it. …

Parenting Yourself When You Have Small Children

There’s no doubt about it – parenting small children takes a lot of time. So much time that it’s very easy to forget about your child within. Yet you cannot be a really good parent while forgetting about your own feelings, needs and well-being. Haven’t you noticed that if you do not take care of yourself by having enough time for yourself you are much more irritable with your mate and children? Whether your job is being with your children all day, or you work out of the home all day, or you work in your home and tend to your children all day – you need some time for yourself. When my children were small it was challenging to …

Parenting Tips to Create the Family You Desire

There has been much attention in the media of late on the transformation of families, Dr Phil’s Phenomenal Family Series and Super Nanny to name a few. I recently had the pleasure of being featured on a radio program, Coaching Corners in New York in which I spoke about creating your dream family by becoming the parent you want to be. Many parents have this hope but do not know where to begin and how to get there. Others know what to do but get side tracked; finding their present state of their family is far from what they want it to be. I hope this article will help those who are new parents create your dream family and those …

Parenting Tip: Spice Up Child Stories by Using Sound

Copyright 2006 Paul Arinaga This article presents a parenting tip for using sound, and especially onomatopoeia, with child stories. The benefits are: 1. they make child stories more interesting 2. stories become more interactive 3. making sounds is fun! Why Use Sound? As recently as a few centuries ago, stories were primarily oral/aural; they were spoken, not read. Even today, good storytelling in writing is pretty much the same as good storytelling verbally. Unlike adult “stories”, children’s stories have always been spoken or read aloud, and still are today. One way to make your stories more “verbal” is to use sound or onomatopoeia. “Onomoto” what? Onomatopoeia are words that imitate sounds. For example, a cow says “moo” or a clock …

Parenting Tip: 10 Ways to Make Up Great Child Stories for Your Kids

It’s fun to read child stories to your kids, but it’s even MORE fun to make up your own. You don’t need to be a creative genius to do so. All it takes is a little imagination and patience (with yourself). Follow these 10 suggestions, and you’ll find that making up entertaining child stories is as easy as talking with a good friend. 1. A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words Select a picture or series of pictures from a magazine, book, newspaper or wherever. Then describe what’s happening in the picture or pictures. 2. Truth is Stranger than Fiction Draw in events from your everyday life and then embellish them. For example, instead of “Jason played in the basketball game …

Parenting the Attachment Challenged Child

There is much literature on how to parent challenging children these days. Unfortunately much of that literature does not typically address the child with special parenting needs and a special parenting understanding. A child that has been diagnosed with reactive attachment disorder, oppositional defiant disorder,or even depression, requires an understanding not of the behavior itself,but rather of the underlying dynamics driving the behavior. Take for example the analogy of an iceberg. Typically when we refer to an iceberg we are referring to what we see above the surface. However, 90% of every iceberg is invisible, lying under the surface. What you consider to be an iceberg is really only the tip. It’s an overwhelming thought when considering how enormous an …

Paternity Testing Regulation: Help or Hindrance

Paternity Testing Regulation: Help or Hindrance? The French legislation has passed a law which prohibits testing for paternity without the involvement of the court system. Article 16-11 of the civil code states that in order for an individual to legally conduct a paternity test, he or she must first have a court-appointed lawyer assigned to his or her unique case. The court then has control to decide the consequences of the paternity test results. This article will explore how one man’s red tape is another man’s due process. Introduction he internet has opened up opportunities for many DNA laboratories to distribute free paternity test kits in hopes of a sale from returned samples. In Europe, France is the only country …

Paternity Leave: Why Aren’t Men Taking It?

In 1993, the federal Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) granted American men and women up to 12 weeks of unpaid time off from their jobs for the birth or adoption of a child. This period of time off is generally known as family leave or parental leave. For women, it is commonly called maternity leave; for men, it may be referred to as paternity leave. To be eligible for parental leave under the FMLA, a person has to work for a federal, state, or local public agency or an organization that has 50 or more employees working within a 75-mile radius. He or she must have worked for the organization for at least 12 months and for at least …